I do not.
That’s all. This is the article.
In all honesty, that’s the full message: don’t do it. It’s not worth it.
No longer are you a horny teenager, desperate for credit bragging rights or to try out your newfound wisdom. You are not a preaching priestess with lost souls to save just before the day of reckoning imminently arrives. We have time.
Instead: leave people alone. Seriously. They’ve come to Thanksgiving dinner to relax and rejoice with family, laugh, tell stories, and get away for the day – lest they be ambushed with what will sound to them like a deranged rant on a dark subject they couldn’t possibly talk about. matter less. Even if it is the monetary system, which nobody understands anyway.
Get back down to earth.
If you’re not convinced by this Dale Carnegie social approach and still naively think that your meager words between bites can change anyone’s opinion about anything, here are some more serious reasons why you Not talk to friends and family about the Bitcoin protocol, but definitely not about bitcoin, the asset:
- Your family and friends don’t want to hear it. Go on.
- For operational reasons, you don’t want to draw unnecessary attention to the fact that you probably have a decent bitcoin stack. Hopefully, family and close friends should be safe enough to confide in, but people talk and that gossip can only hurt you.
- People only find bitcoin interesting when they are ready to; everyone gets the price they deserve. As Gigi says in “21 Lessons”:
“Bitcoin will be understood by you as soon as you they are ready, and I also believe that the first few bitcoins will find you as soon as you are ready to receive them. Essentially, everyone will receive ₿itcoin at exactly the right time.”
It is highly unlikely that your uncle or mother-in-law is in that phase, As soon as when you are about to sit down for dinner.
- Unless you can claim youth, old age, or abject poverty, there are very few people who haven’t actually heard of bitcoin. This means that your evangelism would not be preaching to the lost and ignorant souls ready to be saved, but to the jaded, huddled and weary masses who could care less about the discovery that will change their societies more than the internal combustion engine, the Internet and of big government combined. Big deal.
- The case, however, is that everyone in your potential audience has already had a couple of touchpoints and rejected bitcoins for this or that standard FUD. It is a scam; it seems strange; is dead; let us trust the central bankers, who have our interest at heart.
No amount of FUD busting changes that impression, because no one holds misinformed, fringe beliefs for rational reasons—reasons that can be overturned by your enthusiastic arguments between cleaning up the cranberry sauce and grabbing another slice of turkey.
- It’s really bad form to talk about money and bitcoin is the best money there is. Be classy.
Now, I’m not saying never, ever talk about Bitcoin. We love to talk about Bitcoin – that’s why we go to meetups, join Twitter Spaces, write, code, run nodes, listen to podcasts, attend conferences. Folks there obtain something about this monetary rebellion and they decided to be a part of it. Your unsuspecting family members didn’t; ambushing them with the wonders of multisig, magically fast Lightning transactions, or like them too truly need to get on this hype train, as, yesterday, is unlikely to go well.
However, if in the post-dinner break on the veranda someone comes up to you one-on-one, whiskey in hand and with an inquisitive mind, that’s a very different story. This is personal rather than public, and it’s without the time constraints that usually trouble us. It’s about clarifying questions or concerns for someone who is both expressly curious about the subject and available for discourse. It’s rare – appreciate it and nurture it.
Last year I wrote something about the role of political conversations in social contexts. Since November was also election month, it is appropriate to mention here:
“I’m beginning to believe that politics look better in the closet, renamed and highlighted for the specific occasion. Or maybe the bedroom, with those you trust, love and respect the most. Not in public, not with strangers, not with friends, and definitely not with other people in your community. Purge it from your being as much as possible and refuse to let political issues encroach on the areas of our lives that we love; politics and political disagreements are not ours, and our lives are too important to be governed by (mostly contrived) political disagreements.
If anything, those words seem truer today than they did then. And I assure you, the same goes for bitcoin.
Everyone has some sort of hunch or opinion about bitcoin, and most of them are wrong. But there’s nothing people love more than a savior in white armor, riding out to dispel their mistakes about something they’re just out of their ass for. Just like politics, nobody really cares.
Leave them alone. They will find bitcoin in their own time, just like all of us have.
This is a guest post by Joakim Book. The views expressed are entirely their own and do not necessarily reflect those of BTC Inc or Bitcoin Magazine.